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Creating a Family 

All I ever wanted to be was a mom.

Really! And not just a mom in the sense of mothering a child, I mean a mother, responsible and accountable, the matriarch of a family.

I had been developing a plan for this since I was a child.

I kept a running log through out my childhood, my teen years and my early 20’s. I would do this, I wouldn’t do that etc…

When Jerry and I were young (just 17 years old) we would critique other parents and talk about what we would and wouldn’t do if we ever had children together.

As I...Read more

The Power of Words

Mom, mom, Guess what?!?!?! There's a contest and I'm gonna win a bicycle!!! I screamed on my way into our dimly lit, curtains drawn apartment after an exciting day at The Maybrook Elementary School. We lived down the hill from the school and we walked by ourselves to and from school each day which was very much the norm then. As I slammed through the door, my heart filled with possibility and excitement, my mother lifted her head from the couch opened one eye and murmured these devastating words, “don’t get your hopes up, everyone thinks they’re...Read more

Desperate to Interact!

Erica was about 2 weeks old and I was struggling withTHE BABY BLUES I didn't know I was, but like more than half of women having babies each day, I was. I had insomnia, they said, “don’t worry about the dishes and the laundry, sleep when she sleeps!” if only it were that easy… I was irritable, the tears came randomly without cause and the mood swings were immeasurable. As a doula trainer when I am teaching about the signs and symptoms of...Read more

A Mother’s Love

My Journal Entry On May 14, 2008

Dear Diary,
Every time a vagina opens and a brand new person emerges, I am overwhelmed by my emotions. The physical, emotional and spiritual achievement of another woman makes me a stronger, more confident more spiritual woman myself. Feminine pride overwhelms me when I witness another woman achieve her rite of passage and become a mother. During childbirth there’s often a time in which the soon-to-be mom doubts herself, telling me, “I can’t! I can’t!” But I know she can, and that’s one of the reasons I’m there, to help...Read more

July 11th 1992

I gave birth to 7lb 3oz Erica early that morning. My due date was July 4th and when it came and went I was pissed! I'm not sure why they told me I was... DUE that day, since in my chart it said  ESTIMATED due date . I still can't figure out why they skipped the word estimated.

Seems like an important one to me….

Ok, my water broke - no contractions - went to the hospital - started pitocin - laid strapped in bed on the monitor for a bunch of hours - begged for an epidural - doctor cut the opening of my vagina with a scissor and there she was…. Our...Read more

Dig a little deeper

You, a friend and a cup of coffee. You called her, you made the arrangements to meet up with her. You fit it into your schedule.

WHY? What do you hope to get from it? Will you make it worth the time you give it?

What happens next is dependent upon what the two of you are willing to do. It is dependent upon how much you trust each other and how compatible you are as friends. Will the focus of this coffee outing be "lists"? You know what I mean....

How's your mom?

What are the kids up to?

What are you doing for...Read more