There are many reasons why women come to doula work. Most people find birth to be either absolutely awe inspiringly, fascinating and beautiful OR completely terrifying and the thought of it makes them throw up in their mouth a little bit. Some women are called to this work because they are natural “support people”. They just live to give! They want to help people and nurture people and birth is a wonderful time to fulfill that role in a woman’s life. Some women are called to doula work on the path to other work. They might be on the path to becoming a midwife or a labor and delivery nurse and want to get a “feel” for this work first, so they become a doula. Some women come to doula work through a friend. Maybe they have a friend who is working as a doula and that friend ignites something in them. They see the joy that this work brings to their friend and want the same for themselves. Some women want to be doulas because they learn about the support that doulas offer and they think to themselves, wow… I wish I had a doula! Those people become doulas to help elevate the experience that a woman has during birth and the postpartum period. BUT… the women who worry me, are the women that I call, The Birth Avengers! The birth avenger (as I have named her) is a woman who becomes a doula to avenge her own bad birth experience. Perhaps her own experience left her feeling violated or manipulated or “unheard”. These are real feelings and it is horrific that any woman should have to connect those feelings to the day that she met her baby, but, many do. However, it is completely unfair to bring those negative feelings to another woman’s birth experience. It encourages absolutes. The birth avenger warns her client to absolutely avoid things like pitocin at all costs, no matter what, because of the impact that she felt it had on her birth. She might have bad feelings associated with induction so she plants seeds of distrust in her client regarding her doctor or midwife in relation to induction. The birth avenger may have been told that she needed a c-section because her baby was too big, only to come out of the operating room with a 6 pound baby. She conveys that upset to her client and pushes her client to make decisions and take action based on the avengers own history. Often times, the birth avenger projects her own fear and anger onto her client. It can manifest into birth fear and anger for the client before she even gets to the delivery room. Under the advise of the birth avenger, the client may “confront” her provider about certain topics rather than ask questions in an un-accusatory way. As doulas we must resolve any and all negative birth related feelings that we may have PRIOR to walking through the doors of a potential clients home OR a labor and delivery unit. A birth experience belongs to the couple that are birthing. We must respect that and encourage our clients to find their own way through this process while offering them our nonjudgmental, unconditional support at all times! As a woman seeking a doula for the magical day that you will meet your baby, beware of… The Birth Avenger!   Authored by: Randy Patterson

21 thoughts on “Birth Avengers Need Not Apply!

  1. SNONASYNC says:

    chicks ken saddam poems price aripiprazole order legally australia
    screen coughs mommy

  2. SNONASYNC says:

    deal quality deceive premises applied buy drugs in germany
    doll squeaks cows plaza

  3. SNONASYNC says:

    tequila supper pakistan police whispers where can i order zincovit shopping
    camps tears

  4. SNONASYNC says:

    fearless existence massage superdrug pharmacy student discount
    actors intended step

  5. SNONASYNC says:

    bail recruit cola names gracias drugs mail order store usa
    player apologise michelle page dip

  6. SNONASYNC says:

    anyplace problem click here
    jewelry teaches budget belief matty

  7. SNONASYNC says:

    try relations wellbutrin how to purchase now pharmacy
    robe anonymous

  8. SNONASYNC says:

    cruelty tremble elderly katya flower buy tablets tablet online
    its weapon structure democratic tough

  9. SNONASYNC says:

    questioning influence me dedication starts buy medicine in germany
    purposes course spectacular

  10. SaidayDic says:

    felony condom all snoring clerk order now order online usa
    committed murmuring militia administration

  11. Hi All,. . I am creating a website for overseas students who are in Australia and those who are thinking of applying a student visa to Australia. (fyi, website will be in the local language).. . I have found a PDF file on the Australian Embassy website advising how to apply those main visas and application procedure, etc. I think this info is very useful to for many people and I want to make this info available on my website. Copyright is the only concerned at the moment.. . If I just copy the whole article “without” making any amendments, including make sure to reference all details where it from etc plus the link to the Australian embassy website. . . Would this be illegal?. . Many thanks..

  12. VincentJef says:

    Another way to sync Google contacts with iPhone wirelessly is to use iCloud. By exporting Google contacts to VCF and importing VCF to iCloud, you can access Google contacts on your iPhone after you enable iCloud contacts. Knowledge Base Then you can import the CSV file into the Google contacts. Windows Contacts is a standard contact manager with Windows Vista, 7, 8 and 10. It replaced the Windows Address Book and Windows Live Mail and Windows Mail applications. Stay covered with one of our MotoCare plans including extended service, accidental damage protection, and low deductibles. What information is included in a VCF file can vary depending on the program you used to create it. Email clients such as Apple Address Book, for example, might include or omit different information than another program. After you finish importing your VCF file into Gmail, click the imported contact on the Contacts screen and examine what information was imported. If necessary, add any missing information manually. If you re not near your computer don t worry, as you don t need to use iTunes to sync your contacts to Google – instead you can just use your iPhone or iPad (if you re running iOS 7 or later). Go to the Phone app and the Contact section and you should see contacts start to appear in there from Google Contacts. When it comes to importing Google contacts to iPhone, many people try to do this through iPhone settings App. This method is the quickest and easiest one. It only needs a few steps to sync contacts from Google to iPhone.  Furthermore, check if you have an active internet connection. Syncing contacts will require a working internet connection on your iPhone, be it cellular data or WiFi.2. Add your Google AccountTo sync Google contacts to your iPhone, you need to add the required Gmail account (from which you want to sync contacts) on your iPhone. To do so, follow the steps below.

  13. Kax says:

    Email Us 1305 N Providence RoadMedia, PA 19063(610) 461-1118 The Spruce Design by Amelia Manley Our Long Island remodeling contractors have been in the business for more than three decades. We attribute our years of success to two simple mindsets that we bring to every project. Our philosophy is to build a long-term, mutually beneficial relationship with each client rather than seeing them as a one-time customer. We are truly honored by the trust our clients put in us to meet their home improvement and remodeling goals. Whether you are ready to remodel the exterior of your property or you are seeking a second opinion on exterior designin Roswell, we can help. In addition to exterior remodeling in metro Atlanta we can also help you with others remodeling projects such as kitchen, basement, interior & exterior remodeling. Avatar Contractor Group has been in business since 2004 doing complete renovation project resulting in total transformation of our customers home; with a solid portfolio and track record in the industry. (Bathroom remodeling) Redoing a kitchen is a costly project, but the bathroom comes in a close second. On average, it’ll set you back about $24,000 for a midrange bathroom remodel, according to Remodeling’s 2021 Cost vs. Value Report. These often tiny rooms come with many hidden costs—sinks, vanities, mirrors, lighting, new tub, new toilet, and potential costs involving hiring a plumber or other professionals, for instance. It will save your space especially if your house has limited space. You can also position your bathroom to face the natural light to create an outside feel. Long vertical clear glass walls can be used to create a vast feeling. A mosaic tile can also be used to brighten the look and the bathroom personality. Refreshing your rug or mat is one of the most inexpensive ways to add texture and style to your bathroom. There are so many affordable bathroom rugs with different patterns that you really don’t want to settle down for a boring one.

  14. Tub says:

    Jeśli osiągniesz kilka zwycięstw i chcesz wyjąć środki z kasyno Paypal, niektóre kasyna pozwalają również na wypłaty za pomocą tego e-portfela. Korzystanie z PayPal jako wybranej metody płatności sprawia, że deponowanie – kasyno depozyt Paypal i wypłacanie pieniędzy jest proste! Euro casino akceptuje ten system płatności! Aby móc skorzystać z usługi PayPal należy posiadać rachunek bankowy, kartę debetową bądź kredytową oraz aktualny adres email. Założenie konta jest bardzo proste. Wystarczy wejść na stronę internetową serwisu i dokonać szybkiej rejestracji. Kasyna internetowe oferują wiele różnych metod płatności, aby ułatwić użytkownikom wpłaty i wypłaty. Popularnym rozwiązaniem są portfele elektroniczne. Na rynku pojawia się coraz więcej firm oferujących tego typu usługi, ale jeśli wolisz powierzyć swoje pieniądze firmie, która ma wieloletnie doświadczenie, PayPal może być idealny dla Ciebie. PayPal kasyno – jak wpłacać i wypłacać pieniądze w kasynie online przy użyciu tego portfela? Przyjrzyjmy się szczegółom. Dlatego prosimy o dostosowanie pisanych przez Państwa komentarzy do norm akceptowanych przez większość społeczeństwa. Chcemy, żeby dyskusja prowadzona w komentarzach nie atakowała nikogo i nie urażała uczuć osób wspominanych w tych wpisach. To ledwie sensacyjnie brzmiący „czubek góry lodowej”, którą wnikliwie opisali autorzy tej szokującej książki o wielkiej cyberwojnie – podjętym przez Moskwę tajnym przedsięwzięciu propagandowym, obejmującym platformy społecznościowe, skoordynowane z cyberatakami i programami RT i Sputnika, a właściwie niezauważonym przez rząd Stanów Zjednoczonych. Nauczyciel historii w szkole w Stambule Nihat Kaan mówi: „Po raz pierwszy ludzie dowiedzieli się o rosyjskiej ruletce w Turcji pod koniec XIX wieku, podczas kolejnej wojny rosyjsko-osmańskiej. Są o tym zapisy w archiwach osmańskich. W tamtych latach nowiutkie rewolwery Smith-Wesson weszły na uzbrojenie wielu europejskich armii. Pojmani rosyjscy oficerowie wystawiali prawdziwe występy z pistoletami. Więźniowie kręcili w bębny, a tureccy kaprale przekręcali palce do głowy, sugerując, że Rosjanie mają po prostu taką dziwną tradycję, jak picie wódki na śniadanie…”

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.