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Choices in Childbirth

 

Ok, Everything looks great. No tampons or sex for 6 weeks.

SEX? 6 WEEKS? ARE YOU NUTS?

I never want to put anything in that thing again!

The thought of it was terrifying. Sex after a vaginal birth…. are you kidding me?

I was sore. I mean really sore. 21 years ago, I had an episiotomy during the birth of Erica. An episiotomy. You know, where the doctor sticks half of an open scissor inside your vagina and crunches it shut, leaving a gaping incision at the bottom of your vagina. After the baby is born, he sews it up, makes some sick little joke about its size and pronounces you… good as new.

Good as new?!?!?! I felt like shit. Oh, and I forgot to mention, my husband watched in horror as that little procedure took place.

I could barely walk and the idea of sitting was a joke. I was a one-cheek sitter for the first 10 days. The only thing that brought the slightest bit of comfort was that peri bottle (you know, the squirty water bottle they give you to dilute your urine when you pee). Otherwise, I was in utter pain. I was taking care of myself, my newborn and my nipples, all while trying to recover from the scissor incident.

If I only knew then, what I know now….

Thank goodness (in most cases) episiotomy is no longer routine. In the last handful of years, as a doula attending a lot of births, I have seen two. Two necessary episiotomies. Two necessary episiotomies with the consent of the woman...Read more

 

Top 10 Reasons To Give Birth At Hudson Valley Hospital Center

After attending hundreds and hundreds of births at Hudson Valley Hospital Center as well as many other birth facilities, I have comprised todays Top 10 list of the amazing reasons why HVHC is a great place to give birth. No… they did not pay me to write this J

10) Tubs in every birthing room. Each labor room is equipped with a hot tub AND women are encouraged to use them!

9) The nursing staff has complete respect for moms, dads AND birth plans. They understand various philosophies regarding birth and do everything they can to help families have the birth that they choose.

8) There is a strong midwifery presence at this facility and tremendous breastfeeding support from IBCLC, Linda LeMon as well as the supportive nursing staff and administrators.

7) Most of the DOCTORS and MIDWIVES are comfortable with water birth and if mother and baby are doing well, water birth can be an option.

6) Intermittent monitoring with Pitocin. This means that even with Pitocin, mom has freedom of movement during labor (including using the tub) if she is on Pitocin!

5) No Routine IV’s. IV’s are only used when necessary.

4) Hudson Valley Hospital is VBAC (Vaginal Birth...Read more


Staying safe from negativity during pregnancy!

“She acts like she’s the only woman to ever be pregnant”… followed by an eye roll….

Who says that?! Oh, I’ll tell you who says that! WOMEN! Close friends, co-workers, sisters, in-laws, out-laws etc… The onslaught of birth negativity starts the moment we share our amazing news!

There are some bizarre behaviors that surround pregnancy in our culture that I will never understand.
Here is a perfect example.

Sister in law: So, (excitedly) when are you due???
Newly pregnant mom: My midwife said my estimated due date is Sept 12th.

Sister in law: Hmmph…That doesn’t mean a thing. If you don’t have your baby by that day, they will induce you.
Newly pregnant mom: Really?

Sister in law: Yup, that’s what happened to me. They made me go to the hospital, hooked me up to this crazy medicine called Pitocin. I was contracting like crazy! One after another for hours! I begged for an epidural! I thought I was gonna DIE!!!!
Newly pregnant mom: What if I want a natural birth or a water birth?

Sister in law: What are you nuts?! Go to the hospital and get an epidural the second you go into labor!!!
Newly pregnant mom: (walks away feeling terrified and confused)

This happens every day in our culture. Women seem to enjoy creating fear for one another around labor and birth....Read more

Continued from "I Was Called To Birth Work"

When I walked in the door after being gone for less than 2 hours I looked liked I’d been put through the ringer. I flopped down on the couch and said, “I am NEVER doing that shit again!” Jerry Patterson encouraged and insisted that I do at least 5 births before I made a decision and I thought he was insane. So, imagine how freaked out I was when the phone rang 15 minutes later and I was asked to go to “The Birth Cottage” to attend my second birth!!!! I hung up the phone and my eyes filled with tears but, I made a commitment so I dragged myself back out to that beat up blue, Ford Bronco and SLOWLY headed for the Birth Cottage. I shut off the truck, opened the door and slid out. I took a long, slow deep breath of autumn air, picked my head up and walked to the door. I had a horrific image in my mind of what I would see, hear and SMELL when I walked in and holy shit…. Was I surprised!

As I pushed the door open, the gentle smell of lavender and mint caressed my nose. The air was heavy and light at the same time. I felt warm but could sense a cool breeze. I listened for screaming and cursing and instead heard the flow of running water. I followed the sound and found myself entering a beautiful bedroom complete with hardwood floors, a four-poster queen sized bed and strong feminine décor. I was greeted by a huge smile and a hug from Laura (the nurse) who was bringing towels into the bathroom. I...Read more