Ok, Everything looks great. No tampons or sex for 6 weeks.
SEX? 6 WEEKS? ARE YOU NUTS?
I never want to put anything in that thing again!
The thought of it was terrifying. Sex after a vaginal birth…. are you kidding me?
I was sore. I mean really sore. 21 years ago, I had an episiotomy during the birth of Erica. An episiotomy. You know, where the doctor sticks half of an open scissor inside your vagina and crunches it shut, leaving a gaping incision at the bottom of your vagina. After the baby is born, he sews it up, makes some sick little joke about its size and pronounces you… good as new.
Good as new?!?!?! I felt like shit. Oh, and I forgot to mention, my husband watched in horror as that little procedure took place.
I could barely walk and the idea of sitting was a joke. I was a one-cheek sitter for the first 10 days. The only thing that brought the slightest bit of comfort was that peri bottle (you know, the squirty water bottle they give you to dilute your urine when you pee). Otherwise, I was in utter pain. I was taking care of myself, my newborn and my nipples, all while trying to recover from the scissor incident.
If I only knew then, what I know now….
Thank goodness (in most cases) episiotomy is no longer routine. In the last handful of years, as a doula attending a lot of births, I have seen two. Two necessary episiotomies. Two necessary episiotomies with the consent of the woman...Read more