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Postpartum

I am always astounded to hear of a mom who arrives at her 6 week postpartum doctor/midwife appointment… PREGNANT!

My vagina was terrified after childbirth.

20 years ago, having a baby and having an episiotomy went hand in hand.

Or should I say, hand in scissor in hand, in vagina…. Afterward, it required a tremendous amount of patience, understanding and TLC.

I walked gently.

I sat GENTLY-ER!

I diluted my urine with warm water (with that uhh-mayy-zing peri-bottle), I softly patted it dry and I sprayed it with soothing aloe spray every chance I got. I nurtured my anatomy as tenderly as I nurtured my new baby. When I wasn’t focused on one, I was focused on the other.

All vaginas are not created equal.

I remember being taken to my postpartum room after delivery. It took me about a half hour to ease myself into bed and nudge an inch at a time into a comfortable position, ooh-ing and ahh-ing while wincing in pain with each nudge. Once I was settled, I planned on staying put for as long as possible. I was laying completely still and staring deep into the eyes of 6 hour old Erica Patterson when my roommate arrived. She barreled into the room with the nurse, dropped her things on top of the dresser, flopped onto the bed, picked up the phone and ordered a pizza for delivery!

I couldn’t believe she could move like that! I said, “did you just have a baby?” She said, “yea, ya want some pizza?” It was a...Read more

When a baby has colic... 

Colic can be extremely difficult to endure. There is very little that can be done to stop the discomfort and crying associated with colic. For moms that have to work through this early parenting challenge, our advice to you is to surround yourself with plenty of support. Keep the "know it alls" away and surround yourself with the unconditional, nonjudgmental support of those who love you. al

March is colic awareness month and we would love to post your personal blog about your own experience with your newborn that suffered with colic. What did you do to get through it? Was there a support group that you turned to? A product or position that worked best for your little one?. 

These are some frequently asked questions about our favorite product for comforting a baby suffering from colic. It is called Colic Calm. Have you tried it? Please share your experiences so that someone struggling knows she is not alone!Read more

PLEASE! Hold the new mothers in your life close. Postpartum depression sadly reaches every demographic and none of us are safe. Be the kind of woman that someone in your life might confide in if they are in trouble. I am heartbroken by this story and wish I could have supported this desperate mom.... </3Read more

Postpartum Help… Do I Need It?

 

Understanding what your postpartum needs will be while you are pregnant, can be a very tricky thing.

You haven’t even given birth to this baby yet, so how will you know your needs.

You might be asking yourself….

Who will help me?

Will breastfeeding come easy?

Should I hire a baby nurse?

Do I need a lactation consultant?

Is a postpartum doula a better choice for me?

When can I pump?

How the hell do I pump?!?!

My suggestion is always the same.

Tune everyone out (friends, relatives, in-laws and out-laws) and think it through.

Listen to yourself.

Do you function better on your own with the support of your partner? Do you feel you need some gentle guidance? Do you value sleep and anticipate needing help over night?

Think about your parenting philosophy. Are you planning to practice attachment parenting? Scheduled parenting? A combination of both (which is totally doable)?

These questions and more will bring you to your answers.

Do some research and talk to some professionals.

Ask your doctor or midwife for some recommendations.

Make a list of questions and invite some postpartum doulas and baby nurses to meet with you to discuss. Those meetings should be free of charge.

Some starter questions for you to add to:

Do you have current references?

How...Read more

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