Providing Professional Doula Services to Families in Greenwich, Westchester and NYC

September 2013

1) I want an amazing birth experience where my husband plays a key role. We both anticipate him doing more than holding my hand and cutting the cord. 

2) I want complete control over who will share in this intimate experience and I can get that in my own home. Call me a control freak… but I am not comfortable with a new cast of characters coming in with each shift-change.

3) I want to be where I feel most comfortable and uninhibited.  I want to be able to scream, cry, laugh, curse, puke, etc.  There’s no safer space for this than my own bedroom.

4) Labor is hard work! If I get hungry or thirsty, I want to eat or drink and I don’t want to be told that I can’t. Many hospitals don’t allow food or drink during labor. I’ve done the research; this misguided practice is surgery prep, not birth prep. I believe it’s far more important that I keep up my strength throughout my labor.

5) I want my birth to progress naturally at my body’s pace, not at a pace dictated by routine protocol or an obstetrician’s schedule.

6) I want a natural and un-medicated birth.  Interventions and medications carry risks for both me and my baby.  Even though I’m a bit of a wimp most of the time, other comfort measures can be as effective as drugs. I don’t want anything to inhibit my ability to fully experience and participate in my labor and delivery. 

7) I want to be able to move around and change positions during labor.  Being confined to a bed is not my...Read more

This was officially, my last weekend of summer. Forever!

Not summer like the four seasons… what I mean is, my last summer vacation from school with my kids.

For the last 16 years of my life, summer mornings meant the girls finding their way out of bed at whatever hour their bodies told them to. It meant getting our chores done early, whipping up peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, grabbing our pails and shovels (and bread for the fishes) and heading to the lake. It meant sitting outside of Carvel on the curb licking ice cream cones while they dripped down the girl’s arms. It meant getting home and bathed and dinner ready and playing with daddy. It meant falling asleep on the couch and being carried into bed.

Summer meant sleepovers with pancakes in the morning, it meant outdoor arts and crafts and it meant smores over the fire at night.

Summer also told us to take a break, slow down, enjoy each other and our lives!

The final weeks of summer saw us getting ready for a fresh start. They included shopping for new school clothes, the hippest backpacks and the coolest two pocket folders we could find.

What has always been the most appealing part of summer, for me, was that it meant THEY WERE MINE, ALL MINE! I didn’t have to share them with anyone else. Not their teachers, not their coaches, not that big yellow school bus that took them away each day.

Yesterday, I went to the grocery store and while I was...Read more

1)  Music is familiar. Making a playlist of songs that you know well, to listen to during labor can be very comforting. Giving birth in a non-familiar place can disrupt the natural flow and continuity of labor. Filling the room with things familiar to you can relax you and help your labor to progress. Typically, songs that you know all of the words to are songs that you have sang along to on many occasions. Those songs will stimulate familiar thoughts for you and can bring a comforting feeling with them.

2)  Music is personal. Music defines us in some ways and so can giving birth. Choosing to have music in your labor room and choosing what music will play gives us ownership of our room and ultimately our experience. It creates personal space in that room and tells the people who come in the room that you are a woman who has made choices about your experience. Own your personal space with the music that tells the story of who you have been and who you are becoming!

3)  Music is rhythmic and so is labor. Women who are given the opportunity to move during labor, intuitively move like they are dancing. When they are not restricted and are feeling uninhibited, women will roll their hips in a swaying or circular motion. Music helps us find that rhythm and allows us to go deeper into the experience.

4)  Music is inspiring. Think Rocky! Nothing inspired the...Read more

I am a Doula and I have been witnessing birth for about 17 years. The truth is…

I don’t love birth.

What I really love is the power and strength that women find in them selves during labor. When that power, pushes them past the words, “I can’t!” and they learn how capable they really are. THAT is my true passion and why I love my job.

I have pushed myself many times in my life and because I have, I have confidence. I trust my instincts and I believe in my abilities.

My life has not been easy. In fact, I personally know the meaning of the word struggle, I looked struggle in the eye and I made it through… virtually unscathed.

At 21 years old, Jerry and I were homeless. We lived outside… on the streets. Our only belongings were, 2 sleeping bags, 1 plastic garbage bag filled with our clothes, an acoustic guitar and an alarm clock that didn’t work without electricity.

The good news? We lived in San Diego! The weather was perfect and it never rained, not even once, while we spent that month without a roof over our heads.

Jerry got a job as a laborer for a small construction company and I got a job at the bowling alley’s snack bar.

Getting that job was one of the most challenging and strategic things I have ever done in my life. Remember… I was homeless. No address to write on the job application, no phone number to leave for the manager to contact me. So instead, I showed up every day at a different hour...Read more